Do you hold grudges?

While the dictionary definition of a grudge is simply being mad at someone for something they did, holding a grudge is much more profound. It’s this unequivocal anger that is beyond something. Healthy last week we talked about what to do when someone hurts you and not processing. Today, we’re taking a deep dive into what it means to hold a grudge, how it impacts you, and how to finally let it go. Let’s not waste one single moment and dive in!

We have all been hurt by someone we love. Engaging in relationships puts you at risk of heartache simply by the nature of giving of one’s self. Yet, when this occurs, do you know how to get over it? Do you know how to allow yourself to feel and move on? Many don’t; that’s why you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into what to do when someone hurts you, and the steps you may need to take to get over the things that have caused you pain. This week is part one of a two part series.

Let’s get right to it.

We’re taking a one-on-one deep dive into why the brain is always on the lookout for trouble, how to stop being hijacked in hopes of providing a false sense of safety, and we’ll breakdown how to disentangle ourselves from our earliest patterns, wiring, and our triggers.

This big conversation will shed light on why you may be causing yourself more issues than you realize!

In today’s Mindset Reset, Lauren from South Carolina wrote, “Danielle, I’ve heard you talk about breaking everything down into facts when you are going through a hard situation. I believe you said it’s important to ask questions to find the facts, but honestly, I’m struggling with the questions! Maybe that sounds dumb, but I don’t know what to ask. I can come up with facts, but even then sometimes I feel like they aren’t facts. They are opinions or how I feel about the situation. Can you help me with the questions to make the process easier?”

We all have ups and downs, and it’s no secret that life throws hard things into our path. After all, why do you think the saying, “Bad things happen to good people,” exists? Yet, when those hard things occur, how we connect to them and how we fix our mindset plays a significant role in the moment and our overall life satisfaction. It also impacts one other major element in our lives. Can you guess what it is?

If you guessed inner peace, you are right.

So, let’s take a one-on-one deep dive into our mindsets and whether or not you play the victim in your daily life. This is an extensive conversation about identifying the small daily behaviors and habits that create the biggest divide between feeling empowered and feeling negatively impacted, I’m handing over the signs that you are living in full victim mode, and of course, we’ll be talking about how to change course from victim to victor.

How would you rate your confidence from one to a ten—ten being your confidence is in everything you do, think, and feel, or a one with confidence being something you wish you could create but certainly do not have it?

Today's mindset reset is inspired by a continued conversation with Karmen L. We've been working on confidence. When we talk about confidence, often people think of this façade of being able to walk into a room and own it or not to question themselves or have doubts. No matter what you think, what you've been told, or how many times you've used your inner voice against you, that is not confidence. That is ego.

Today, we are breaking down the layers of confidence and providing evidence that you are more confident than you think!

Gratitude is more than practice. It is a true mindset, a lifestyle that impacts your mental health, relationships, and how you see and interact with the world around you. It truly is the secret sauce to everything that is good and keeps us moving forward in our lives.

So today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into gratitude. What it is, how it can be practiced, what it does to the brain and the nervous system, and how it can shift and mold the experiences that you have in your day-to-day. Grab a pen, and let’s shift into an attitude of gratitude.

In today’s Mindset Reset, Lauren from South Carolina wrote, “Danielle, I’ve heard you talk about breaking everything down into facts when you are going through a hard situation. I believe you said it’s important to ask questions to find the facts, but honestly, I’m struggling with the questions! Maybe that sounds dumb, but I don’t know what to ask. I can come up with facts, but even then sometimes I feel like they aren’t facts. They are opinions or how I feel about the situation. Can you help me with the questions to make the process easier?”

The word safety comes up so often, whether in private sessions or here on the podcast, and there's a reason for it because everything starts and ends with your ability to feel safe. When you don’t have it, you can spiral.

In today’s Mindset Reset, I am walking you through the understanding of what happens when you don’t feel safe. There’s a true downward mental action that occurs. When you see and witness it, you empower yourself to change it.

Many live their lives through a background of unhappiness. While they feel okay in most moments, there’s also a general feeling of discontentment, resentment, irritation, and other negative emotions as they go about their daily lives.

While most of these feelings are subconscious thoughts that sound like, “I need or want this to happen before I can be happy or fulfilled,” or “Life is always so hard,” the stories that you tell yourself significantly impacts those background feelings and slowly become the factors that destroy your inner peace until you choose to leave the stories behind.

Today we are taking a one-on-one deep dive into what inner peace is, what many must let go of to gain it—and it’s probably deeper and different than what you think, and then we’ll take on how to know when you’ve begun to accept inner peace as your baseline center fully.

We all have ups and downs, and it’s no secret that life throws hard things into our path. After all, why do you think the saying, “Bad things happen to good people,” exists? Yet, when those hard things occur, how we connect to them and how we fix our mindset plays a significant role in the moment and our overall life satisfaction. It also impacts one other major element in our lives. Can you guess what it is?

If you guessed inner peace, you are right.

So, let’s take a one-on-one deep dive into our mindsets and whether or not you play the victim in your daily life. This is an extensive conversation about identifying the small daily behaviors and habits that create the biggest divide between feeling empowered and feeling negatively impacted, I’m handing over the signs that you are living in full victim mode, and of course, we’ll be talking about how to change course from victim to victor.

we’re taking a one-on-one deep dive into why the brain is always on the lookout for trouble, how to stop being hijacked in hopes of providing a false sense of safety, and we’ll breakdown how to disentangle ourselves from our earliest patterns, wiring, and our triggers.

This big conversation will shed light on why you may be causing yourself more issues than you realize!

We’ve reached the end of 2022. It’s been a year of MANY things. A year of growth and loss. A year of seeking and change. A year of revolution and finding ourselves to the point where many now ask: what next?

What is next? What would your ideal life look like if you could envision come this time next year? Have you ever taken a moment to clarify what you truly want? Have you taken a moment to break down the five pillars of your life and write a vision list?

From intentionality to a life mission statement to deep diving into what you want to create in the next twelve months, we are setting ourselves up for the most tremendous success possible, which always leads us to deeper self-love and inner peace.

With two weeks left in the year, most of us lean into a natural thought process of evaluation—what went right this year, what didn’t, how we can do better, and what we want for the new incoming year. And while this focus is so prevalent, often something stops us from genuinely diving into this much-needed thought process. What is it? It’s the unwelcome holiday guests that go by the names stress, anxiety, and depression.

As we continue our series to wrap up the year, we are taking on how to prevent the end-of-the-year stress and depression this week, and then next week, we’ll uncover the correct way to write your 2023 vision as it is broken down into the fundamental areas of life.

Each of us has a set of basic human needs that must be fulfilled for us to thrive in our humanness—feeling safe is second in our primal needs on the need hierarchy. So, if I ask you what it means to be safe, most people give me an answer based on physical safety. Yet, what most people do not understand is that safety also expands into our mental, emotional, physical, and even financial pillars of life, which means that safety must be present for the well-being of our minds and emotional bodies.

As we continue our building series to close out the year, we’re taking a one-on-one deep dive into what it takes to feel emotionally safe, why it’s so important to create emotional safety, and, as always, we’ll talk about how to start the process of building emotional security with a few daily practices.